Chatting about how the perceptions of the perfect body and young women’s positive body image has been dramatically and adversely affected with the advent of social media, especially over the last 10 years. . Back in the day – in the 1970s, the decade in which my novel “Secrets in the Dark” is set – young women would have scrutinised their bodyshapes in the mirror, wishing they could have been slimmer, taller or even bigger breasted – looking more like their favourite model or pop star – and addressed their issues with a dramatic diet or some slimming pills.
They never had the pressure of negative online peer judgement and the skewed perceptions of online reality versus real life, causing comparison anxiety, unrealistic ideals of perfection and mental health issues.
Chatting on BBC Radio Leeds with Stephanie Hirst on Body image And Mental health And how these same issues affected the protagonist Phoebe in my debut novel “Secrets in the Dark” even in 1970’s before the advent of social media.
At 64, she shows that we can be proud of our body at any age, and we love it!
With the dictates of beauty that target women, women sometimes find it difficult to assume their bodies. A sixty-year-old proves that one can be good in one’s skin at all ages.
Be thin, do not have wrinkles… Women are subject to many injunctions as to their appearance. This can be a difficult weight to bear, which makes many of them feel bad about themselves. Fortunately, more and more voices are rising to denounce these dictates, and to show that there is not only one form of beauty. Ceril Campbell is one of them. At 64, she fully assumes her appearance on Instagram, and it feels good!
On the social network, the British woman regularly publishes photos of herself doing sports, having fun on the beach, eating good food … In short, enjoying life. But her account differs from that of other influencers on many points. First of all, it is with pride that Ceril Campbell displays her wrinkles, which are no longer signs of old age that must be hidden, but simple marks of time that show that we have lived. If she gives advice to stay in shape, she emphasizes that the most important thing is to feel good in your body and do what you want to do, without forcing yourself to have an impressive musculature. On some videos of her sports sessions she sometimes shows that she can not do it, to remember that there is no shame in having trouble doing things.
Ceril Campbell has known of these issues for a long time, since she was a life coach and image consultant for international stars. She knows how important the view of others can be, and that social networks can strongly influence the image one has of oneself. It can be negative, and lose the confidence one has in oneself. That’s why she gives this advice on her website: “I want you to look in the mirror and like what you see”. And she is right! Because, after all, what counts most is the image we have of ourselves, and not what others think of us. If she encourages women and men so much to work on the psychological aspect before working on the physical side, it is because she believes that one must be fulfilled to learn to love one’s body.