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Even if we don’t feel or have social media comparison anxiety, we can still feel a need to post daily so we don’t lose followers, and our followers don’t lose interest.
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So if I don’t post every day, please don’t get bored and disappear. .
My Instafeed is real, not filtered, hoping to inspire, and may not always be real time as I’m not out every day and night. .
I’m often in many evenings on my own watching TV. My life can even be quite boring, mundane and even lonely. .
That is something that most people would not want to admit on their social media.
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I’m currently in the middle of writing a novel which is nearly finished, and that requires huge discipline, no distractions, sitting at my laptop with all emails and social media switched off.
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So today I’ve posted a bare-faced, no-make-up selfie pic of my 64 year old me. Just as I am. No filters. This is me. .
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Here’s to a great week.
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I’m wearing:
Zara dress (this season £19)!
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Debenhams Jacket (2018)
John Lewis Valentino Rockstud look-alike shoes (2018)
Whole outfit under £100
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Btw…
To all who look at others’ Instaposts wishing that your life is as glamorous, colourful, fun, full of socialising and excitement –
Most people’s are not, Including my own. .
I’m not out every night, nor am I at the gym everyday. .
My posts are simply the parts of my life that I hope are interesting.
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I hope to inspire with lifestyle tips of fashion, style, fitness, nutrition, health and beauty as a 64 year old woman with no filters or editing to show that you can be active, fit and enjoy life to the full whatever age you are. .
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I love doing these speaker talks for organisations or schools.
If I can inspire or change the mindset even of just a small percentage of my audience it’s all worth while.
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I want both women and men to aspire to be their unique best selves, to not aspire to be like the images that they perceive to be the reality on Instagram social media posts.
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I’m wearing:
A current season £29.00 Zara dress.
I replaced the plastic red belt it came with, with a Gucci one. I like to mix affordable High street with occasional Designer accessories.
Orange ballet shoes Zara past season.
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@bnppleasing
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A makeup free face no filters. .
Over the last month I had 5 x BDR facials at the lovely Elena’s Fulham aesthetics beauty clinic Elenique.
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I’ve been using the BDR products regularly every day. Cleanser, toner, 2 x serums and a moisturiser. Seemed a lot of products to use twice a day at the beginning as I’m all about speed as never have time to faff around, but
I’ ve got used to the routine now and even managed to fit an exfoliation in one evening too. .
My skin tone seems improved, maybe a bit firmer and plumper, still have wrinkles but I wasn’t hoping for a miracle.
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10 facials apparently is the best for optimum results with occasional monthly maintenance one after that.
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With thanks to @welovebdr and @elenacudworth @eleniqueskinclinic .
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#self-confidence
Wearing denim on denim in the Jean Machine on the Kings Road Chelsea. Maybe 1970.
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The denim shirt was studded.
I added an YSL diamante star brooch which was a must have then.
Chunky belt and chunky silver bracelet.
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We used to pour ourselves into our jeans, the denim had no elastine added then. We wore the smallest size possible and lay down on the floor using a coat hanger handle to pull up the zip or even asked someone for their help.
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The Jean Machine back in the day was a super cool place and everyone came to buy their jeans there including celebrities who we all shamelessly pounced on to get them to be our customer as we were on commission for every jean sale. We all earned a lot of money on Saturdays for ourselves in cash and for the owners too! .
The photos weren’t filtered.
We accepted our photos as they were, even if we didn’t look perfect. Perfect wasn’t an option.
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No one would ever have considered taking photos or selfies then as we had no mobile phones only proper cameras, and those were used for dedicated photography on holidays or occasions or proper photoshoots. Definitely not recording a day’s random activities publicly. No one would have wanted their activities on public view at that time. Everyone was too badly behaved.
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No-one had comparison anxiety then.
We might aspire to look like the models or actors in magazines, ads, films or TV.
There were no reality TV stars. .
We may have wanted to be skinnier like the models or fit in a smaller pair of jeans, but no one judged our body shapes. .
Mental health or anxiety was never mentioned.
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We lived in the moment and engaged with life around us. We were the generation that were no longer like our mothers tied by their apron strings to the kitchen and the home.
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The world was our oyster.
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@kingsroadchelsea
Chatting about age- and being real on BBC5live at 10.50am this morning with Emma Barnett.
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Why I no longer feel the need to fib about my age even when I reach another milestone birthday. Looking in the mirror each morning isn’t always the best as i still feel like my younger self inside but the mirror tells a different story.
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When we were in our teens or twenties, we aged ourselves up to appear more wordly and maybe to be taken more seriously by those older than us especially for career advancement.
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However when we reached our 40s and onwards we fibbed and lopped years off to remain as long as possible in the previous decade.
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Now that we look after ourselves better with a healthy lifestyle and diet, nutrition knowledge, fitness and beauty regimes, we can look our best and be proud of how we look naturally whatever our age.
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I’m proud to look the way I do in my 60s.
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Of course I would like to look like I did when I was in my 20s but I’ll settle for being the best version of how I am now.
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I’ve had amazing life experiences in my 60plus years and two wonderful children.
Ive no need to fib any longer.
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I want to inspire women of all ages.
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