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How to Start Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce

Even the most civilised of divorces are difficult to go through, and the emotions can take a toll.

Read on to discover all you need to know to become that bold, wonderful, independent you after a divorce.

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3 tips for taking care of yourself after a divorce

When a marriage breaks down, and a divorce is the only way forward, it can be a stressful and grief-filled time. Here are my five top tips for ensuring you take care of yourself during and after divorce proceedings.

  1. Be aware of your feelings and don’t ignore them.

There are five stages that you will likely face when going through a divorce: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance. It is important that you allow yourself to go through all of these stages and emotions, and allow yourself to grieve – after all, a divorce is a big deal.

Tip: Keep a journal to allow yourself a space to vent frustrations and collate feelings. This journal will not only help you to process what you’ve been through, but will also allow you to look back and see how far you’ve come.

  1. Ask your friends and family for support.

There are people in your life who will be there through thick and thin – and at times like these when you have been through a huge change in your life, it’s important to lean on that support system. Whether you need somewhere to stay, a friendly ear to talk to, or someone to join you on a ‘let’s get away and forget everything’ spa trip, so don’t be afraid to ask for the help you need.

  1. Seek professional help.

A friend lending a helping hand is one thing, but it’s also important to seek professional help after a divorce if you think that will be helping you. A friend is like a jump leads to kick start a car, whilst a therapist is a mechanic who can help you fix the route of the issue. A therapist or life coach can help you to move on and rebuild your life, giving you the building blocks and motivation you need to be able to start over. It’s their job to help you through tough times in life and seeking professional help is nothing to be ashamed of, please do remember that!

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4 steps to move forward and rebuild your life after a divorce

Taking the best care of yourself is important after a divorce, but you also need to take time to start over and rebuild your life. Here are a few tips to help you do just that.

  1. Know when it’s OK to stay friends, and when it’s best to cut ties completely.

Even though you have decided to part ways as spouses, the feelings don’t always fully go away – especially not straight away. For some people, their husband or wife is also their best friend, a person they’ve spent a lot of time together through highs and lows, and there is no reason why the breakdown of a marriage should result in the loss of that friendship. For others, however, particularly when a marriage has been toxic or abusive, it’s important to fully cut ties to ensure you are able to move on and live life to the fullest after the divorce.

  1. Don’t forget that it is possible to start over and find happiness again.

Just because one marriage ends in divorce, does not mean that you are destined to be alone forever. Don’t be afraid to put yourself back out there and begin dating again. Being single can be fun, and you can – and will – find happiness again, whether that is with a new partner, or on your own living your best life.

  1. Address loneliness directly.

Take the time to do things you enjoy and be around the people you love. The breakdown of one relationship doesn’t mean the loss of all of them. Why not enjoy a holiday with your children or best friends, or attend classes to learn a new craft and make new friends.

  1. Take time to reinvent yourself.

It’s important to remind yourself of your own identity now the ‘we’ portion of your life journey is over. From hiking up a mountain you’d always wanted to try, to indulging in a different cuisine every night to discover which is your favourite; there are so many ways you can explore who you are after your divorce.

Tip: A change of image can often increase your confidence. It can be anything, from a new hairstyle to hair colour, or if you are a man with a beard maybe a new beard style click here for some ideas #ad

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The mental strain of a marriage break-up is bound to take its toll on you. However, there are plenty of ways to begin stepping towards rebuilding your life and beginning the process of healing. With these tips, I hope you are able to start on your journey with purpose and excitement for the new adventures yet to come your way.
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Another protein and low carb breakfast idea

Another protein and low carb breakfast idea.

Scrambled eggs with spinach, avocado and tomatoes. You could leave a 12 hours interval before you eat your breakfast,  after your last meal the eve before.  This gives your digestion a chance to rest. 16-18 hours is an optimum gap if you're on a weight loss journey. On 2 consecutive days for the best result.

Spinach, avocado and tomatoes are all good slow release carbs eaten together with the protein of the eggs.  Tomatoes contain the antioxidant lycopene which has been linked to many health benefits including reduced risk of heart disease and cancer. They also contain Vit C and Vit K.
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Scrambled eggs with spinach, avocado and tomatoes. You could leave a 12 hours interval before you eat your breakfast, after your last meal the eve before. This gives your digestion a chance to rest. 16-18 hours is an optimum gap if you’re on a weight loss journey. On 2 consecutive days for the best result.

Spinach, avocado and tomatoes are all good slow release carbs eaten together with the protein of the eggs. Tomatoes contain the antioxidant lycopene which has been linked to many health benefits including reduced risk of heart disease and cancer. They also contain Vit C and Vit K.
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Tuesday morning early HIIT boxing training session

Tuesday morning early HIIT boxing training session.

Love boxing for having to be mindful, be in the moment and focus.  Also brilliant for cardio, toning, upper body, arms, waist, glutes and legs
And also the brain for remembering the sequences. HIIT is the best way for helping increase your metabolism for most efficient  weightloss (of course together with how you moderate your eating).
You dont have to be young to start a new sporting activity. #nevertoolate. I'm 63.

Love boxing for having to be mindful, be in the moment and focus. Also brilliant for cardio, toning, upper body, arms, waist, glutes and legs
And also the brain for remembering the sequences. HIIT is the best way for helping increase your metabolism for most efficient weightloss (of course together with how you moderate your eating).
You dont have to be young to start a new sporting activity. #nevertoolate. I’m 63.

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Back to the pilates reformer this week

Back to the pilates reformer this week.

Great for keeping the body mobile and for strong core and glutes. With core strength the back is supported and the knees will have less issues with tracking or injuries.

Great for keeping the body mobile and for strong core and glutes. With core strength the back is supported and the knees will have less issues with tracking or injuries.

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Back to the pilates reformer this week

Back to the pilates reformer this week.

Great for keeping the body mobile and for strong core and glutes. With core strength the back is supported and the knees will have less issues with tracking or injuries.

Great for keeping the body mobile and for strong core and glutes. With core strength the back is supported and the knees will have less issues with tracking or injuries.

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A regime morning @grayshottspa

A regime morning @grayshottspa . 
Breaking the 5:2 fast with breakfast of spiced cured salmon with avocado and butter bean houmous ( no coffee)! Yummy and super healthy with omega 3 and good fats.

A swim in the indoor pool, a plunge in the very cold but invigorating icy plunge pool after a steam room. All fitted in befire a 16 minute  hydrotherapy bath with Epsom salts which are great for magnesium, detoxification and relaxation.

Lunch is a buternut, chilli and lime soup followed by cold salmon with green baby pea shoots, a walnut dip and a designer swoosh of pureed beetroot. Accompanied with a rainbow mix of vegetables for vits ACE and zinc with their health giving benefits as antioxidants.

Of course digestive bitters and sauerkraut to start to get those digestive juices working for good gut health and a few soaked mixed nuts (and some olives) for their good fats.

So as you can see a Grayshott regime is by no means a starvation diet and there is still a 2 course dinner later after a pilates class.

No grains, no sugar, no milk, 
but simply protein, healthy fats,  vegetables,, fibre, nuts and fermented foods all helping the body to become its optimum best with a healthy functioning gut.

Breaking the 5:2 fast with breakfast of spiced cured salmon with avocado and butter bean houmous ( no coffee)! Yummy and super healthy with omega 3 and good fats.

A swim in the indoor pool, a plunge in the very cold but invigorating icy plunge pool after a steam room. All fitted in befire a 16 minute hydrotherapy bath with Epsom salts which are great for magnesium, detoxification and relaxation.

Lunch is a buternut, chilli and lime soup followed by cold salmon with green baby pea shoots, a walnut dip and a designer swoosh of pureed beetroot. Accompanied with a rainbow mix of vegetables for vits ACE and zinc with their health giving benefits as antioxidants.

Of course digestive bitters and sauerkraut to start to get those digestive juices working for good gut health and a few soaked mixed nuts (and some olives) for their good fats.

So as you can see a Grayshott regime is by no means a starvation diet and there is still a 2 course dinner later after a pilates class.

No grains, no sugar, no milk,
but simply protein, healthy fats, vegetables,, fibre, nuts and fermented foods all helping the body to become its optimum best with a healthy functioning gut.

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A regime morning @grayshottspa

A regime morning @grayshottspa . 
Breaking the 5:2 fast with breakfast of spiced cured salmon with avocado and butter bean houmous ( no coffee)! Yummy and super healthy with omega 3 and good fats.

A swim in the indoor pool, a plunge in the very cold but invigorating icy plunge pool after a steam room. All fitted in befire a 16 minute  hydrotherapy bath with Epsom salts which are great for magnesium, detoxification and relaxation.

Lunch is a buternut, chilli and lime soup followed by cold salmon with green baby pea shoots, a walnut dip and a designer swoosh of pureed beetroot. Accompanied with a rainbow mix of vegetables for vits ACE and zinc with their health giving benefits as antioxidants.

Of course digestive bitters and sauerkraut to start to get those digestive juices working for good gut health and a few soaked mixed nuts (and some olives) for their good fats.

So as you can see a Grayshott regime is by no means a starvation diet and there is still a 2 course dinner later after a pilates class.

No grains, no sugar, no milk, 
but simply protein, healthy fats,  vegetables,, fibre, nuts and fermented foods all helping the body to become its optimum best with a healthy functioning gut.

Breaking the 5:2 fast with breakfast of spiced cured salmon with avocado and butter bean houmous ( no coffee)! Yummy and super healthy with omega 3 and good fats.

A swim in the indoor pool, a plunge in the very cold but invigorating icy plunge pool after a steam room. All fitted in befire a 16 minute hydrotherapy bath with Epsom salts which are great for magnesium, detoxification and relaxation.

Lunch is a buternut, chilli and lime soup followed by cold salmon with green baby pea shoots, a walnut dip and a designer swoosh of pureed beetroot. Accompanied with a rainbow mix of vegetables for vits ACE and zinc with their health giving benefits as antioxidants.

Of course digestive bitters and sauerkraut to start to get those digestive juices working for good gut health and a few soaked mixed nuts (and some olives) for their good fats.

So as you can see a Grayshott regime is by no means a starvation diet and there is still a 2 course dinner later after a pilates class.

No grains, no sugar, no milk,
but simply protein, healthy fats, vegetables,, fibre, nuts and fermented foods all helping the body to become its optimum best with a healthy functioning gut.

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Lunch today on the 2nd fast 5:2 day

Lunch today on the 2nd fast 5:2 day. Definitely not starved! 
Braised chicken thighs(protein) with fennel (a diuretic)  orange and red onion puree in the 'swoosh' , tomato dressing, romesco dip, blanched vegs, and a side ( not photographed) of sauteed kale with cashew nuts.(good carbs and protein)

#5:2 @grayshottspa

Definitely not starved!
Braised chicken thighs(protein) with fennel (a diuretic) orange and red onion puree in the ‘swoosh’ , tomato dressing, romesco dip, blanched vegs, and a side ( not photographed) of sauteed kale with cashew nuts.(good carbs and protein)

#5:2 @grayshottspa

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