4 steps to move forward and rebuild your life after a divorce
Taking the best care of yourself is important after a divorce, but you also need to take time to start over and rebuild your life. Here are a few tips to help you do just that.
- Know when it’s OK to stay friends, and when it’s best to cut ties completely.
Even though you have decided to part ways as spouses, the feelings don’t always fully go away – especially not straight away. For some people, their husband or wife is also their best friend, a person they’ve spent a lot of time together through highs and lows, and there is no reason why the breakdown of a marriage should result in the loss of that friendship. For others, however, particularly when a marriage has been toxic or abusive, it’s important to fully cut ties to ensure you are able to move on and live life to the fullest after the divorce.
- Don’t forget that it is possible to start over and find happiness again.
Just because one marriage ends in divorce, does not mean that you are destined to be alone forever. Don’t be afraid to put yourself back out there and begin dating again. Being single can be fun, and you can – and will – find happiness again, whether that is with a new partner, or on your own living your best life.
- Address loneliness directly.
Take the time to do things you enjoy and be around the people you love. The breakdown of one relationship doesn’t mean the loss of all of them. Why not enjoy a holiday with your children or best friends, or attend classes to learn a new craft and make new friends.
- Take time to reinvent yourself.
It’s important to remind yourself of your own identity now the ‘we’ portion of your life journey is over. From hiking up a mountain you’d always wanted to try, to indulging in a different cuisine every night to discover which is your favourite; there are so many ways you can explore who you are after your divorce.
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